Leaping the Ladder

The Ladder of Inferences ( http://www.masterfacilitatorjournal.com/inference.html )
Have you ever been a ladder leaper? Acted a certain way based on past experiences rather than thinking of each experience as a unique event. I am a ladder leaper - probably more in my personal life than my professional life (which is good for work but not so good at home). I do admit I have "lepf the ladder" at work but I attmept to go back down the ladder - however, in my personal life I find it much harder. The most evident example of “ladder leaping” in my life is with my husband and going over the bills. Based on past experiences – I know this is going to be an uncomfortable event because of my actions with spending. I would spend without thought to our budget because that is what I did. Over the past 21 years I have changed my philosophy on spending and try to follow our budget. However, my husband has the mental model of my old spending – his mental model may have changed regarding my spending BUT my mental model of how he reacts during “bill time” has not changed. I anticipate he is going to be mad at the purchases and I skip to the final rung – I’m mad at him before he can be mad at me. Now I just need to figure out how to go back down the ladder with him on the “bills”.